Finding myself again

When we separated, I felt both sadness and relief. Sadness because a family was breaking apart. Relief because the constant arguing and tension finally stopped. Still, the loneliness hit hard – especially not seeing my child every day.

At first, evenings were strange. After work, there was no endless to-do list anymore. I could actually relax. Sometimes that calm felt good. Sometimes it felt empty. I missed closeness. But if I’m honest, I had missed that even before the separation.

I focused more on my physical and mental wellbeing. I realized I get more quality time with my child now. Our relationship feels stronger. I get to be a father in my own way, make decisions, be present. My child tells me I’m a good dad. I believe it.

My ex struggled at first – there was drama, complaints, tension. A few months later, things have calmed down. We’re not friends, but we manage.

I’ve learned important things:

Notice red flags earlier. Don’t ignore your own feelings. Seek support early – even alone if your partner refuses. Handle the practical things first so you have space for emotions later. You can’t control everything in life, but you can control how you respond.

Most of all, I’ve learned that it’s not my job to make everyone happy. I gave everything I had to that relationship. I have no regrets. And slowly, step by step, I’m finding my way forward.